A radio talk show psychologist said we think of divorce as a blow out, when in reality it is a slow leak. That came to mind when I read Dear Abby the other day.

The letter came from the "other woman," although she denied being a "mistress." She claims her lover's marriage is intact. They just get together whenever they can and claims they are "best friends."

Whether the man's wife admits it to herself or not, she knows at some level there is a break in the marriage commitment. Some women know consciously and quickly. Others push the warning signs away.

The Other Woman does have some good advice for married people. Give undivided attention. Make the most of time together. Enjoy being with each other. Do the little things that give pleasure.

The details make or break you in business, sports, health and marriage. One book on marriage claims a spouse can re-build a failing marriage by doing the things he or she did when first in love.

It seems as though the Other Woman listed some of those things. Enjoy being together. Do little things to please. Make the most of the time you have together.

Each relationship is unique. I remember a woman whose husband passed just before their 50th anniversary. When her mother-in-law complained about dirty dishes, this bold woman replied, "Maybe that's the reason I'm still married and you are divorced. I grab and book and read in the boat when he wants to go fishing."

In these troubled times, we need the support of family. We can choose to enjoy our spouses and overlook the little things. The Master said we should forgive 70 times 7. Learning to forgive can help build relationship and put a plug in the slow leak.