Healthy Relationships Posts

If you have been in an abusive relationship, you may think you do not know how to answer that title question. Lets ask some questions to get you thinking. Do you love your children, your parents, your siblings? How do you treat them? How do you treat the person who abuses you?You love your children. Lets look at overall patterns, not single events. Most mothers are in the habit of being patient an...

How did your relationship go from loving to abusive? The abuser does it gradually. He breaks down any positive image you have of yourself.In the beginning he says he loves youyou are beautifulyou are intelligentyou have a good personalityhe likes an independent womanyou have so many good qualitiesAnd you feel like a queen. So you start loving him for the way he builds you up.Then one day he gets m...

It appears that a celebrity incident has brought domestic violence back into the limelight. Domestic violence is one kind of unhealthy relationship. Research reveals some basic facts about domestic violence.Although some women are abusers, men are the perpetrators a greater percentage of the time. This article focuses on male perpetrators. Women can do the same things.Domestic violence begins with...

Dating and relationships are touchy issues. Everyone has advice for the single person. Some is good. . . .Men and women communicate differently. Men tend to say what they mean more directly than women. Women tend to put the message into code, which men do not understand.A couple of years ago I read the book He's Just Not That Into You, co-authored by Greg Behrendt. It seems he was on Oprah recentl...

Most people do not marry planning to divorce. Ignoring warning flags during courtship can lead to divorce. A divorce attorney analyzed issues that divorcing couples brought to the divorce table. He devised this list of eight questions for people to ask both their beloved and themselves before committing to marriage:1.    "How do you believe we should spend our money and on what?" If...

This story is long, but worth the read:"At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered this:"'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled, comes into the worl...

I was just on Dr. Phil's web site. Detective Mike Harris, supervisor of the Child Sex Offender Investigations Unit in Colorado revealed something that is occurring with children. Mike goes to chat rooms pretending to be a young teen. An adult male invited Mike to view his web camera.Did you get it? That adult is asking a child to watch him live. You know he is up to no good.That adult is taking ad...

Love is essential to life and health. Children die without love. Sometimes adults feel an extra need for love. That may be a time to ponder these thoughts from an email:1.    There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.2.    At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.3.    The only reason people would ever hate you is b...

Have you noticed the way people tend to stop what they're doing to smile at a baby? A happy child in a restaurant or the mall can create many smiles.Years ago I heard the story of a tribal woman on an Indonesian island who went into the woods to have her baby. There appeared to be some shame involved, as it was not normal for women in that tribe to give birth alone. After the baby was born the mot...

Ron and Sandy did start throwing garbage back at the neighbors. They talked a lot before and after they made the decision, because they knew they did not have much support in the city. They looked over the fence and saw that the neighbors had stockpiles of garbage. Indeed, the neighbors were bringing garbage in from all over town, and hiding it under their children's toys and the patio furniture. ...